Being me

Some things are not worth a second of my attention, so I simply ignore them.

I refuse to argue with a wall, as I prefer to use my energy on more satisfying things.

I do not consider myself a rebel, because I don't need to rebel, I just live my life doing what I want, no matter who likes it.

No need to be "accepted" by society, as I see many complain about, since I not only do not feel marginalized, but live perfectly integrated into it. Obscurantism is something that I still can not see here although certain clandestinity is a plus to enjoy much more of that excitement so ours.

To be the woman I am has not been a matter of days. Nor a few months. I have not even stopped evolving.

I'm used to be attacked by occasional beings of those so brave that they always do it anonymously. But to them, to these paragons of virtue (this is clearly sarcasm), I dedicate them the first phrase of this post.

I decide

The type of relationships that each Domme establishes with her slaves is very personal, but placing limits to give an image facing the public is not very coherent, as we lose wonderful experiences and endless possibilities in our personal development and in our life general.

I will not deny myself the pleasure of feeling what I want and how I want to stick to crippling and constrained parameters to satisfy others because it is what is expected of me, because I am the one who dominates, who decides and who shows and lives the way I please.

You can not live in a constant pose, it would be extremely exhausting. And false.

It's fun to "pretend to be", but when you really "are", need not to prove it, you just "are" without forcing anything in order to others can see that you are.

I am in favor of impersonal D/s relationships, but also of affective D/s relationships. Now, I decide how I show my affection and to whom :)

Live and let live

Enjoying friends and acquaintances of all roles and trends doesn't mean a tarnishing (as some purists seem to think), but quite the opposite, because it enriches your life and expands your worldview.

Each of us is as it is and does, feel and live what we prefer.

Practicing respect for others is something that defines us as people. Criticizing and belittling other ways of living only leads to isolation and self-limitations.

We can agree with the views of neighbour or think completely opposite way, we can agree or tastes can differ completely. But it's great implement such so called "open mind" (and that so much conspicuous by its absence so often).

These paragraphs are not going to change anyone, obviously, but maybe they make think a little to whom emit and continue to emit lamentable judgments and accusations about anything they don't understand :)

So it goes

I admit that, in certain circles, I can be considered popular. But I keep surprising when people say it's an honor for them to meet me, especially when the object of my admiration is the one who says it and it's me who has that honor.

Not that I minusvalore myself. Not at all. I know my worth perfectly. But perhaps I have not lost that humility (as contradictory as it sounds in a Dominant) of my beginnings, when everything was new and the simple fact of attending an event was cause for nerves.

I'm not the type who know everything and dedicate the world a sneer. Quite the contrary. I still have many illusions and eager to continue enjoying all the good I find in my way.

I like to do many things, live countless adventures, visit places, meet people, laugh heartily, dominate mercilessly, try new things...

And that's what I do. Living my life enjoying it intensely, feeling honored to meet great people, stomping and, at the same time, preserving humility and illusions as usual. And I'll keep doing it, even with the whole rage my haters feel :D

No therapies

I try to dodge the self-destructive, self-pitying or melodramatic people, whatever their role, that there is everything in this life.

Life gives us plenty of options for us to be what we want to be. Yes, provided we have the courage to fight for it.

I have no patience for whining and wailing for things that can be changed with a little effort. But I respect that some people enjoy their personal dramas and wallow in them, it is their choice and, consciously or unconsciously, are comfortable in that dynamic.

I like positive people, who truly enjoy their lives, their big and small achievements, those who know how to find the good side even in the worst situations.

If a submissive surrenders to a crippling depression, what is he going to give me?; if he has a self-destructive behavior, why would he need me if he can do the job by himself ?; and who wants someone who only brings tragedies?

I'm not the therapist who helps overcome complex and frustrations, it's not what being Dominant and sadistic means ;)

Pleased

I'm flattered by so many wonderful messages I receive from all around the world letting me know that you read and follow me.

I'm so glad you like the things I share here, because it motivates me to continue doing so whenever I can.

And I not only receive messages, as there are also gifts and gift cards, both anonymously through my Amazon wishlists as in my PayPal account.

My bitch says I look like an excited little girl every time a packet arrives for me and that one of these days he will record me when opening a box, lol.

I get excited both with a new pair of boots as with an income from who can only afford $10 because they all come with the affection of the sender (and sometimes very much vice, it must be said) :D

In the same way that I could not enjoy my sadism if there were not beings willing to suffer it, this blog would be meaningless without all ye who enter to read it.

There are days when I find it really hard, sometimes due to time constraints and others because, after so many entries, it is not easy to find a topic to be developed without repeating something already written.

Either way, I sincerely appreciate your messages (although I can not answer them all) and, of course, those great details that you know I enjoy :)

My Domination

I am empathic and give opportunities to a certain extent but if the implication of a slave decays or if I see that he doesn't want to follow my rhythm, my interest fades away and I finish by satiating my instincts elsewhere.

I like things clear from the first minute, not all are fine words, but real facts. Like seeing a smile on the face of the slave before my possessive instincts, without questioning, accepting my tyranny, giving each day the best of himself.

Obviously, all this is composed of steps that must be gradually overcome, I don't conceive it otherwise.

But not me who lives slope of my slaves, it is they who are attentive to me. Just as it is not they who decide and who set the pace of the relationship, but who undergo my decisions and what I want.

There are many kinds of Domination and we chose on the basis of our preferences. Mine is not just a bedroom Domination.

I may be accused of being demanding, no problem, I know I am and I will continue being picky with the things I care about :)

Storytellers

Not impressed by the promises of endless luxuries that I read. Sometimes I receive certain emails where senders make a display of endless fantasies that, in comparison, King Midas seems a one day labourer.

It's great let your imagination fly, we all like to dream, but I am a very realistic woman, of those who know that prefers the stories and tales in book or movie form to distract herself a while.

And it's not difficult to remove all that wordiness. Enough to send these novelists to the Serve Me tab on my website so that they disappear within a matter of nanoseconds.

In the same section you can read phrases like: "I've rejected more stupids with money than I can remember."

Even being a Financial Domme, I prefer reality and sincerity of those who send me a gift from time to time than to endure speeches that will never cease to be just that, words.

Whoever wants to be entertained by email exchanges appealing to my greed, quickly discovers that does not work with me. On the internet you will find endless lists of instadommes willing to endure crap in exchange for promises ;)

A couple of scenes

Advancement of the photos taken during the recording of video clips with Femme Fatale Films.

Self-acceptance

I am not responsible for the feelings of others, unless we talk about the moods that I induce my personal toys (ie, my human pets).

But I'm not talking about emotional manipulation to a slave but the reactions of people in general.

It's true that we all like to be... I'm not saying admired, but somehow recognized and accepted in our field or areas in which we operate. However to act for the acceptance of others doesn't go in my personality.

I think the feelings I awake in people in general have much to do with their own personalities. Someone who tends to envy, will be unable to be happy for the successes of others, for more smiles he dedicates us in person. And, in the same way, a warm personality makes us feel a sincere esteem.

It would be absolute madness to live trying to please everyone.

Some time ago I discovered that I feel wonderful being faithful to my own criteria, without dramas and tragedies about what others think. Nobody is obliged to value us and we can continue living perfectly with that ;)

Daily slavery

For me, discipline and control are indipensables in a D/s, but we are human and sometimes it's necessary to relax things for different reasons. We can not always be aware of all because, a D/s relationship integrated in the real world suffers the same variables than any other: lack of time, issues that require our attention, different moods...

And these are things that the slave tends to take advantage taking liberties that have not been granted, losing sight of his place or banalizing things that are important.

I demand the utmost respect from my slaves, whether I am present or not, their daily effort and progress in their training. If any of these things fail, everything ends falling apart sooner than later and the relationship becomes a kind of comfortable humdrum and habit, situation that I do not desire.

I am the Owner of my slaves, the Owner to whom they surrendered of their own volition, to whom they pledged to serve because it makes them happy, the Owner they obey because it complements them.

Although there are moments of laughter and jokes (that they exist), finally I'm not their lady friend, their lovely wife or their girlfriend, I am their Owner and Mistress. The difference is substantial.

Settings

Occasionally I receive invitations and proposals for events, openings of new stores and other stuff. And I love it, of course, I like to travel and meet like-minded people all around the world.

I have no problem to move around. I'm based in Madrid, but I have no strings attached that prevent me from moving.

Now, sometimes moving to a place not too close means a bit more elaborate logistics and, unless I have a place to stay, I accept the invitation provided the accommodation is included and, obviously, we reach an agreement if I'll intervene in a performance or a shooting.

And as I said a couple of days ago, I'll be happy to shoot alongside other Femdoms, either in Spain or anywhere else, because it's something very fun and rewarding for all parties.

I think I was not wrong in my New Year predictions, as this 2015 is being (and looks like it will be) another great year ;)

Making and breaking

These days I get emails quite funny; at least they make me laugh.

Some people accuse me of being too professional, claiming I'm "too serious" in what I do. Well, I don't think anybody can progress in what they enjoy, whatever it is, if everything is taked as a joke. The laughs are very healthy and I am the first who laughs a lot, but there are things that for me are very serious and as such I treat them.

There is also another kind of criticism in my inbox. Not that this is new, but maybe people should realize that this is my blog and at home I do, I say, I tell and I omit what I want.

That Johnny doesn't like me to make clips, that Daisy doesn't like me to tell things about my life, that Vince doesn't like my blog? Well, maybe Johnny, Daisy and Vince should find another blog more in keeping to their tastes, or perhaps to build one of their own because, logically, I will keep doing things my own way both on my blog and in my life.

For now I'm still recovering from my flu, although I think the worst has passed and soon I will be one hundred percent. My thanks to all who have sent me your love and good wishes.

Rest time

I had a great time filming on Wednesday beside the gorgeous Mistress Heather Divine. You'll see the results as soon as the movies and photos are ready.

 

And finally, my flu has appeared in all its intensity (in fact, I spent the whole afternoon/evening of the shooting chasing handkerchiefs), so I can not do much more than let my bitch take care of me. In a few days I will be like new and I'll keep updating my stuff.

 

By the way, if any Domme wants to shoot clips with me, I'll be happy receiving proposals.

 

 

 

My lifestyle

I love being back at home, even for a short time, because I leave tomorrow again.

I'm having some intense days, full of emotions, surrounded by FemDom Sisters, willing slaves and enjoying it all.

I'll find time to do everything I want on my return, there're already many things that need my attention and I don't want to postpone them much more.

But I also need to disconnect from time to time and devote myself to those who are mine, those little details of everyday life, so that everything continue evolving just as I want.

I am very happy with my slaves, who are always there, at my feet, with their strengths and weaknesses, giving me their devotion and making my life easier and more enjoyable.

 

Why the title "My lifestyle"? Precisely because this is my life, a FemDom life with two 24/7 slaves, others I see often and still some others who serve me in the distance. A life that both myself and my slaves we live with our respective well defined and always present roles.

The truth is that I can summarize the entire post in four words: I love my life ;)

A summary

The weekend has been great, the kind we'll all remember fondly, with many anecdotes, a lot of sado, friendships that are strengthened every day more and, of course, with projects to repeat, share and expand experiences again as soon as we can reconcile agendas. Thanks to all DominaPsique, Tutor and slaves who served us.

There are people with whom ties and linkages arise almost without realizing it, in the most natural way, people to whom you can talk about anything, to whom you can even tell them nothing at all because there are moments where the affinity and understanding is such that it's not necessary to verbalize to make us understand. A glance, a gesture, a smile... and we all feel at home: comfortable and at ease.

Yes, it has a name. Friendship.

And I want to mention another of those people I'm proud to call friends, Lena1223 that, although she could not join us this weekend, did not fail to be present, because she also has her place in our circle.

This new week comes loaded with novelties and activity, so maybe the pace of updates here will be a little affected. But, despite I won't always have time to write, I'll share some occasional illustrative photo of the moment ;)

 

 

 

Call for shooting

Today I make a special request which I think may be interesting, since some of you have been asking me about it.

I'll be shooting on February 4 afternoon/evening in downtown Madrid and need volunteers submissives and masochists. It is not imperative that go openly, may wear a mask or hood.

Filming will be in English and I would appreciate they can speak that language, although that is not essential, provided they can say at least brief expressions in English.

It will be an unpaid activity, hence I ask for volunteers. I make it clear for any further questions. I offer lots of fun and a unique experience alongside professionals in the filming of FemDom movies and clips.

If you are interested in taking part in the shootings (which will last until the evening), please contact me at my email crueldama@europe.com

Values

There are people sending me weird messages. Probably attempts to draw my attention but I have to disappoint them, because I don't answer inanities. Though they already are realizing for themselves.

I value every single thing in my own scale, ie ascribing the importance it truly deserves.

If I'd dedicate to chew all that is wrong and all attempts of attacks that I receive, I would lose many other things which are those that really deserve my attention and draw smiles on my face.

To this day no one can say that has seen me attacked by anger, spitting venom and rage, losing control or behaving like an insane.

Some things are not worth the effort, though some insist.

And it's not a matter of exercising self-control, but to give them the value they have, ie none.

Have you seen what a gorgeous sun shines today in Madrid? Well that's infinitely more important ;)

Dreams and reality

"Madam, You are a dream, I would be willing to do anything for You".

Nice and usual words, right? Alas, to the first requirement, any such willingness vanishes in the same way as pretty words. Ladies know what I mean :)

Thankfully, not everyone is like that,  because it would be terrible that all stay in words.

And although it's not easy, we always find those authentic beads, recipients of our sadism and our Domination, those pieces that we make ours and for whom our effort is worth.

I take my time to observe reactions, expressions, words and gestures but, above all, the facts. Heady words are good for nothing if they are not backed by facts.

You can not build without raw material. I leave the castles in the air for inveterate dreamers. I like reality, my reality.

But there is also room in this world for dreamers. I offer a FemDom blog and video clips at very affordable prices on my KinkBomb Studio. I am a sentimental :D

Tittle-tattle

We all know how human relationships are and, although I like to establish long-term relationships, nothing is eternal. Some come, others go...

When I meet people who know me from time ago, and ask me what was of this or that slave that I had at the time they knew, I can answer "that slave no longer belongs to me" or "he is at my feet as usual ", depending on the case.

If they stay waiting for further explanation, I smile. Unless the questioner belongs to my circle of friends, I don't consider necessary to expand on my explanations.

I like discretion and what is between my slaves (or ex-slaves) and it belongs to our private life. The same way that I won't aerate a confidence, I don't like gossip and much less go-betweens, those fans to get any crumb of information to share it in the next huddle.

Here I tell all I want to tell. And is not little, in fact I think I'm one of the Dommes that shares more things of her life. But, as I said not many days ago, I share what I want to share and I reserve for myself what I wish not to expose.

The most common question is usually how many slaves I have. Here my answer is always a great smile :)