Call for shooting

Today I make a special request which I think may be interesting, since some of you have been asking me about it.

I'll be shooting on February 4 afternoon/evening in downtown Madrid and need volunteers submissives and masochists. It is not imperative that go openly, may wear a mask or hood.

Filming will be in English and I would appreciate they can speak that language, although that is not essential, provided they can say at least brief expressions in English.

It will be an unpaid activity, hence I ask for volunteers. I make it clear for any further questions. I offer lots of fun and a unique experience alongside professionals in the filming of FemDom movies and clips.

If you are interested in taking part in the shootings (which will last until the evening), please contact me at my email crueldama@europe.com

Happy 2015!

Yesterday, in a moment of reflection, I reviewed many good things that happened during this 2014 and I honestly can say that for me has been a great year.

I've organized some BDSM events with a good friend where I had a really good and where I met many great people, I took some new slaves with whom I am working, my website (with my own domain) came to light and, together with my blogs reaches significant levels of traffic, I made some very interesting and productive trips, I solved delayed matters that required my attention, made my debut in creating and editing FemDom video clips in both English and Spanish and, therefore, I created my own Studio where you can purchase them at truly affordable prices, I received gifts and tokens of affection from all over the world...

Yes, definitely, has been an incredible year in which I did reality many of my projects. Although there are still a few budding that I'll carry out in the coming year.

And 2015 sounds great, don't you think so? I think that, even feeling lucky with my life so far, in the new year my satisfaction will increase by living a full life surrounded by slaves and friends.

And, as I don't know if I will publish more posts in what remains of the year, besides that my slave is coming forward toasting with a glass of my golden champagne... Happy New Year!

 

Mistress and sissy maid

What happens before the torture begins is very personal. Here are some snapshots of the previous ritual to a great night. A little bitch serving Mistress at any moment, for me, is the best of starts.

Such a woman

Exactly. That's me. The damn and demanding sadist that has not scruples about living her life as she pleases, the one that does not hesitate in enjoying her little sluts and her life, who can humiliate still smiling and without raising her voice, the one who is happy subjecting minds and bodies without hiding her selfish delight in doing so.

Yes. I am also the woman whom his friends call when they need her, the one that when says something (good or bad) is to help them, who does not disguise her words with hypocrisy, who grows at the obstacles and finds always the bright side of things, situations and people.

But I'm also the personification of the desire of many, terror of a few and the one who is able even to laugh at herself.

Indeed. I'm such a bitch that has self confidence, consistent with her words, who dodges anything that she's not interested in, the privileged one who owns a stable of slaves who serve her.

Affirmative. I am the woman who can spend the afternoon playing with a friendly kitten or dog and the night torturing mercilessly.

That's me. Such a perfidious and Cruel Lady ;)

Alternative sexuality

Most submissives who contact us seeks instant satisfaction. In fact, although I don't know the exact numbers, the percentage of people who arrive to FemDom and BDSM looking for sex sites on the internet is incredibly high.

There is nothing wrong with entering porn sites (unless you're under control and have no such permits :D). The sex industry keeps moving masses every minute.

But, although FemDom is for many of us an alternative lifestyle in which sex has a lot to do, either forcing, manipulating, denying it, strengthening it, playing with the desire or as each one wants to live it, it's not just sex.

Nor it's a purely aesthetic matter. I am very fetishist, but do not sleep corseted and in high heels ;)

Whether I'm practicing a genital torture, an especially hard spanking or imposing a chastity device, for example, I enjoy it much more if the recipient of my whims does so in the conviction of being surrendered to me and not just 'cause he's sexually aroused because I use him from time to time.

An ejaculation, an orgasm, are great, but if there's nothing else, everything ends when climax is reached.

My order

Occasionally I get a burst and I let myself go. Today, for example, I have knocked down all my toys, those that usually hang from several chains on the walls of my little homemade dungeon.

My bitch knows I want them arranged in a very specific way, not only for aesthetics, but for my comfort. But this weekend she was doing general cleaning and I found everything changed.

Going to find a whip, a paddle, a flogger... and lose half an hour finding where everything is?

I welcome cleaning, but she knows I love my order and everything seemed to have been placed in a hurry. So, when she returns from her errands, will find she'll not only have to cook.

Will she have to pick up everything and cook with a spreader bar on her ankles? ;)

Acceptance

Instincts, pulsions, needs, desires, fantasies...

I could mention that desire is originated in search of satisfaction, a pulsion is an instinctive tendency that pushes us to perform certain acts or to avoid them...

But I will not go into psychoanalysis and, although I don't downplay Freud as intellectual figure of the twentieth century, many of his ideas became obsolete, just as many other opinions in this field will end up evolving.

We can leave aside analysis and live without dissect everything we do; live our desires, instincts, pulsions, needs and fantasies without having to find them an explanation.

Nothing like accepting ourselves and to assume our philias. I have a large list and they are the salt of my life :)

A chair

A simple chair. Wooden. With four legs, its back and its comfortable brocade and velvet seat.

A piece of furniture you can find in any home to rest, eat, read...

And nevertheless that chair today has a special value.

Someone suffers teetering on his knees. Ropes, leather restraints, sensory deprivation, genital torture, immobilizations in general. Confined to isolation on a simple chair.

A trickle of drool under the gag. A gasp, a moan, a veiled plea.

The thrum of my heels approaching and he gets goose bumps with the rubbing of my nails. I smile. I walk away. I watch from time to time while I type.

This is not a story, but a real scene in real time. What is on the chair belongs to me and his sacrifice is my passion.

We are alive

I know many of my posts start with something like "has been a memorable weekend" but it's completely true. It has been!

There was plenty of everything. Laughter, games, sado, excellent company and all the fun you can imagine.

Today is time to land and be back into daily responsibilities with charged batteries and take charge of those thousand projects in perspective. Of course, while meeting with the community in so many great parties and events are being organized everywhere.

Will I see you at the Dungeon of the Kings, Eden, Io Orbit, Rosas5, Pedestal, Crimson, Decadence, Sanctum, Extrem, Rub, Seduction, Sin... or maybe at Exxxotica Dungeon?

Wherever we meet, do not fail to feel ;)

Days to remember

Some pictures of how the weekend is being ;)

The waters of Oasis

They say a picture is worth a thousand words and I have several of the party last night. The Oasis Of Sado said goodbye to the dungeon until September, though we still have a party 24/7 on Thursday, but that will be in the pub Taboo.

In the performance there were torture breasts through a tailored canvas, and most original is that in that canvas, although it was already marked with various fluids and DNA, the artist Marqués de Zas will paint his picture.

Here's some pics and our appreciation to all the assistants to our events during these months, as you hace been the real impulse and motivation, as well as the result of very fun and enjoyable meetings. See you on Thursday 24 Taboo ;)

Lastest BDSM events

It's Saturday again and tonight's party in the dungeon, with the performance Gloryhole. Marqués de Zas and NeFeR will delight us with a new and unique representation designed to The Oasis Of Sado. We start at 23:00, do not be late or we'll begin without you :D

After this event, there will be only other one next week, 24/7, BDSM International Day on Thursday in Taboo.

I will need complacent submissives (that always, avoid missing), I've got tasks for them because, in addition to performance there is so much to do ... ;)

We'll count with the assistance of Nasero, BDSM toys craftsman and friend of the group, who will bring some of his creations, like the new codline I commissioned for friends (I'll must premiere it, lol) and other things he does on request.

In these months of events we have gathered a diverse group of related to BDSM and we are pleased to see that someone new always comes to know us and enjoy the evenings. And I still say more, who test, repeats.

See you tonight? :)

Practices and time

Is rather curious to listen (or read) conversations between members of the BDSM community when they boast about the time they take "exercising". The one who does not claims to take over 20 years, it is because he takes 150 (I think this is like when two males compete to "see who has the longest cock").

I spent a few years but is not an issue to put on the table because, although the experience is a plus, I don't think that 30 or 100 years suppose that I know everything, because I have a lot to learn and even more to enjoy. Also, chatting with new generations, sometimes I am surprised that at very early ages they have things so clear; Well, I talk about some cases, there are also other bleeding (and by this I do not mean games with blood) ;)

Lately I get to say I'm new, even in a chat recently an illuminated on duty told me that is noticed, so I asked politely to see if he could give me some guidelines to see if I managed to integrate myself (and he didn't grasp the irony).

Anyway, chat stories aside, tonight The Oasis Of Sado group will be in the dungeon from 23:00, where there will be some of those not too common practices on events and are often interesting. The theme tonight is "beginners and veterans" (those starting and those who are in BDSM from about 200 years ago, lol). A touch of humor is always welcome.

Visitors arrive!

It's been a week, between one thing and another, I don't stop too much. Not a complaint, mind you, I'm very lucky to do what I want and I am well aware that not everyone can say the same.

But if the week is being activated, the weekend will be much more. Tomorrow is the Oasis Of Sado BDSM party, I guess you all know, but not only that, also come to Madrid two good friends that look forward to meeting, two perversions fellows that, every time they visit me, we finish exhausted, without sleep for a couple of days and happy of life.

We meet more or less every three months, and although we are together online every day, joking and telling our stuff, there's nothing like being together in person, play together, die of laughter and sharing those moments of confidences and talks that can be lengthen for hours.

I tell you because there will be no large posts during the weekend, at most a couple of pictures of the moment, as I will be extremely busy :D

Personal Ethics

I could define it as the set of decisions, as individuals or persons, we take to choose good or bad choices according to the values ​​and the formation of each. But personal ethics goes beyond decisions, since our behavior, our way of doing things is implied. There is a great infuence from the sociocultural environment to which we belong, however we develop our values ​​as our personality is defined.

And exactly the same goes in FemDom. A Dominatrix without personal ethics can be a hazard to those who are in her hands.

This past weekend my Sister asked me to remove a little bit the rust of her submissives and let them in my hands (in fact I am responsible for them while she is absent, responsibility I gladly accepted at the time and I keep delighted).

My dear Sister knows she can trust me fully, so has left them in my care. And yes, I used them, they were helping during the last event and, at times, had intermittent sessions of spanking with paddle, codline and whip (intermittent because there were more people and divided my time between them and the party).

I had and have carte blanche, in fact I consider them a little bit mine (all in the family), but my personal ethics prevent me to overdo things that are reserved to their true Owner, My Sister.

It is the case of alma, the slave of a good friend, all these cases of submissive that their Dommes ask me to play with at one time or another (a collared submissive or slave is something that deserves my utmost respect, both the collar and the Owner, since I expect that same respect when I who yield one of my properties).

We are not all the same and there are always discordant notes that not only do not respect anything, but demonstrate an impressive chutzpah. But, as Owners of our submissives and slaves, we are responsible for to know whom we yield them (if we do).

Awakening

Inevitably, I can't omit how fun the night was, how good time we had and how fun the performance was. Nights like this are what make The Oasis Of Sado takes strength to continue organizing evenings where you are the protagonists.

My thanks to all who work for the smooth running of the night (especially my protected orco and nyx), that make everyone is comfortable, cared for and look forward to returning.

On Friday 20 the theme will be "Novices and veterans," the night when those who are starting or are attracted to our subculture may bring their doubts and curiosities and veterans can offer their experience.

We will have two of my Friends, very valuable for me, Domina Psyche and Tutor, who will take advantage of their stay in Madrid to come and meet you all.

Today relax, at least in principle, since there is another BDSM party tonight, organized by Domina Libertad in Eden room; theme tonight is very attractive "Psyche" that for a passionate of Mental Domination like me is a real temptation. But I have not yet decided whether to go, give me time to wake up :D

Play and feel

I always say that Dominants we are all different, do not insist on treating us all by the same standard and bother yourselves to know each one, because differences are remarkable.

And exactly the same applies to submissives. No two are alike, though there are similar characteristics and needs. There is a belief (especially among Dominas that start) that we can treat them all the same, that they'll surrender and will accept everything we feel like.

They'll only accept once the relationship has been established, we have come a way in which we have taken our time to enter into his head, in training him, in worrying about to know his mind and study his reactions, his fantasies, his desires...

Reading and watching out there it would seem that exchanging a couple of emails and private conversations, calling him dog, putting him a collar and you're all done. And not to disparage anyone, but ... do they really believe that something like that will work beyond a few ejaculations of the collared one?

For me it is something much more serious. If I want to make a relationship work, I have to put my effort into it, my time, my energy. It should be known how far I can take him, when and how can I force a limit, when I push to become involved and work harder, how to apply a physical or psychological punishment ...

The only magic wands that work are of Hitachi ;)

Let's go to the dungeon!

It has been a very dynamic and with many news week. But it's the weekend and tonight's party in the dungeon, where we can meet to talk about our stuff, play what we feel like and meet those who come for the first time to visit the Oasis Of Sado.

I really want to rerun my codline, it suffered a small accident recently, but is now like new and ready for any action it takes. Yesterday came from the workshop of SR-Leather and I want to express my appreciation to the owners, who were kind enough to fix it and leave it even better than before. And, if it was one of my favorite toys before, I can imagine more than a few trembling when they see it in my hands again :D

You guessed it, I love the spanking, painting marks and colors on the canvas of a skin, the sound of the crack of a whip, a crop, a codline, a paddle, a shovel, a flogger, a cane, my hand... to feel, to hear, to taste...

But in the dungeon can do the practices that attendees wish, facilities are perfect for making suspensions, watersports, spanking on the cross, cleat, bed immobilization, foot and footwear fetishists will be in their element with FemDoms there we will. I could go on, the list of practices that lends the dungeon are endless, but obviously, if you wish to do others, there you will find the perfect environment for you to carry them out. Public humiliation, Facesitting, CBT, pet-play, mummification, feminization... or just watch the playing? Anything can happen with The Oasis Of Sado ;)

Cruel, Lady and diaphanous

Life takes many turns. What now seems eternal and completely safe, tomorrow is smoke in the air.

I am inevitable every day more skeptical with the stories people tell me. Even with the closest.

I can't say I'm disappointed, there are things that are seen coming and I am too old to fall into absurd and useless tantrums. Also, I would spoil my makeup and that's something I'm not willing :D

My nick begins with Cruel and ends by Lady, although sometimes I invest the order of the two components and others I use only one of them, depending on the addressee.

I am a very clear woman, at all, but there are still some 'slaves' who try to do things their way to get everything they want sacrificing absolutely nothing.

If you aspire to a FemDom relationship, a real one, a truth one, the concepts are: you'll give priority over all things to your Owner, the Mistress you serve, that she'll know to manage your life :)

For more title of Goddess people adress me, my feet are on the ground (sometimes on someone), and I am sane and smart enough to know (and make know) how I want things to be. I take into account many factors, but I can't conceive any of my relationships being secondary in the life of any of my pooches.

You can not be a little pregnant, you are pregnant or you're not ;)

A great weekend

This weekend I met great people: a follower of my blog who came from San Sebastián only to attend the event on Saturday (I loved meeting you, hope to see you soon), the sympathetic MistressLadyM, who came from Lisbon with her submissive, fetishistic and beautiful Gala_ and TaniaBDSM (pictured yesterday's post) and everyone who made this night a special evening.

But I repeat what I said yesterday. I have been asked questions and I'm not characterized by go over there telling anybody's life or who did what with whom.

Yesterday I had a flood of calls and messages and I thank everyone for the interest in private meetings of The Oasis Of Sado. Soon there will be news and will be a pleasure to share with you all. While we also admit suggestions for everyone to have fun and enjoy your abilities in the dungeon.

A new week starts and we all have many things to do, but don't forget the next event, it will be Friday 16. Every time we are more and the capacity is limited, don't forget to confirm your attendance in the mail that you will find in the BDSM Events section.