The age of the internet

Social networks, groups, communities, mails, messages, forums, tweets, photos, videos, blogs, chat rooms, websites... countless ways to contact among internet users. Myself included, obviously. Even on vacation I'm connected at times.

The breakneck speed of the virtual world is such that what was yesterday the latest generation, is now obsolete or have been overtaken by new versions or stunning updates that never cease to amaze us.

Nowadays there are languages​​, programs, operating systems, addons, pluggins and many other things that those we have lived in times of Basic, Cobol and MS-DOS programming, could not even imagine back then.

New generations can not imagine how rudimentary was all, with diskettes, daisy wheel printers making an awful noise, webcams with which you were lucky to get to make out what was on the other side, monitors that occupied the whole table...

CruelDama has lived long, buut I'm sure that the best is yet to come. And I'll not lose it, but I warn you that there are also a lot of fun out of internet ;)

The mocking rogue

The rogue of some "submissives" is enough to write a book. Seriously, there are things that should be contained in a sort of Guinness Book of fakes.

I don't know if because of the effects of the crisis, at the proliferation of "Financial Dommes", these rascals make their profits in the ranks of the new female recruits. They resort to something as simple as awakening InstaDomme greed and take them from Skype to networks without spending a miserable penny with gargantuan promises.

The other day one of these rogues (he was pretty funny, it must be said), asked in a group of a social network if anyone has PayPal or Amazon (showing his irrepressible desire to make a transfer as soon as possible). Well, in just five minutes there were about fifteen responses like, "Hey, you dog, my PayPal is xxxx".

I could not help but smile, because I'm sure the rascal finished with a lot of Skype, Yahoo, WhatsApps and Kiks IDs, getting all the "humiliation" he sought from a bunch of deluded girls that sure gave him a good number of erections and some other completely free ejaculation.

He is not as stupid as he shows and, when he runs out of spree, closes that account and opens a new one to start over the round.

It's funny watching these things, but my concept of what to be a Financial Domme and a financial slave means is very different.

I advocate a book of anecdotes, it can be very entertaining, lol

In my own way

I'm considering totally change the design and content of my new website. On one hand there are many new photos I want to include (although they are not wonderful pictures of study) and probably remove some of those appearing on the page that is working at this time.

On the other hand I think I will modify some texts and change other completely. Rereading the page that is active, it might seem I spend my life online and is not so, 'cause I distribute my time at my convenience. 

Day after day I delete countless emails that have no interest for me and, of course, I am not obliged to accept the services of anyone, the loaded with money you are. Reject applicants with juicy proposals very often (and many other absurd), because it is I who decide who I accept and what I accept.

I can be understanding and have much patience with those who start, but my patience has limits, and when they exceed that limit, it's over. I don't tolerate lies, play games or manipulations to make things to your liking (will be to mine or it will not be).

I don't feel obliged to anyone, so I play who I want to, not because I have to or because I received a tax. And I love to perform many different practices, but in my Domination I decide what I want, when I want it and how I want it.

There will be not yet become clear, I fear ;)

Let's go to the dungeon!

It has been a very dynamic and with many news week. But it's the weekend and tonight's party in the dungeon, where we can meet to talk about our stuff, play what we feel like and meet those who come for the first time to visit the Oasis Of Sado.

I really want to rerun my codline, it suffered a small accident recently, but is now like new and ready for any action it takes. Yesterday came from the workshop of SR-Leather and I want to express my appreciation to the owners, who were kind enough to fix it and leave it even better than before. And, if it was one of my favorite toys before, I can imagine more than a few trembling when they see it in my hands again :D

You guessed it, I love the spanking, painting marks and colors on the canvas of a skin, the sound of the crack of a whip, a crop, a codline, a paddle, a shovel, a flogger, a cane, my hand... to feel, to hear, to taste...

But in the dungeon can do the practices that attendees wish, facilities are perfect for making suspensions, watersports, spanking on the cross, cleat, bed immobilization, foot and footwear fetishists will be in their element with FemDoms there we will. I could go on, the list of practices that lends the dungeon are endless, but obviously, if you wish to do others, there you will find the perfect environment for you to carry them out. Public humiliation, Facesitting, CBT, pet-play, mummification, feminization... or just watch the playing? Anything can happen with The Oasis Of Sado ;)

FemDom performance

Yesterday I went to see a theater play you all know, but no, it's not the new film by Polanski, that I saw a few months ago and I recommend it if you have not seen, I love how he captures the essence of the psychological Domination Vanda submits severin from the first moment with an unexpected start.

But today I talk about the theater play with the same title, Venus in Furs, performed by Clara Lago and Diego Martin, under the direction of David Serrano, whom you can see in the picture with me.

This work is the American playwright David Ives, in which Polanski based his film, ie, not a representation of Sacher-Masoch book, but a version/adaptation of the play by David Ives in Spanish.

The performance was good, there were sublime moments in interpreting of the actors (both), but the most original was that, once finished, the actors met with the public and had a chat with us, where we could make some other question to the actors and the director.

I don't agree with what was exposed about the movie, but it is clear that we (I extend this 'we' both, to me and for you that visit my blog) we live and feel, what Diego, Clara and David do is interpretation.

And maybe that's the quiz of all and why I applaud this performance, that actors unrelated to BDSM and FemDom get catch the attention of the public and stage a seemingly natural way of things that are everyday for us is, for me, the best flattery. Although, in the subsequent talk, I have to say they don't capture all what Domination and submission mean, very understandable on the other hand.

Go and see them if you get the chance, they are in Legazpi (Madrid) each afternoon/evening. You'll have a good time.

To be or not to be

We can be visceral and, at the same time, have enough self-control to know what we do at every moment and how we channel our emotions.

Being Dominant does not mean losing your composure, do not have to do with being a screamer, not a rude or embittered woman.

Sometimes all it takes is a look to get the result we want, we can exercise power with a whisper in which are embedded a few words that trigger the urge to please us, we manage to capture the attention with a gesture, teach our submissives and slaves (each with our methods) they endeavor to provide a satisfactory service.

It is also true that there are some cases where I really enjoy a more exclusive and intense humiliation. But they are punctual cases and whenever I decide that that's exactly what I want to do with this or that submissive and, of course, that the submissive accept my whim to give him such treatment (or he is one of my slaves, because in that case I don't have to be groping).

But we can humiliate a submissive and lead him to a brutal excitement still smiling and without raising our voice. And I'm not talking about to call him little slut to get a sad erection, but to rummage his entrails and take him by an imaginary leash wherever we want.

The best is not to be as we are expected to be, but as we really are :)

Doubts and fears

It's completely normal and logical to have doubts about the news. And when these news mean to surrender to a Domme, it is imperative the submissive be sure in whose hands he gets.

Two-way communication is essential. Neither I take a submissive who I do not know, nor the submissive is given to me without knowing me. There are a number of steps, which are not always equal nor have the same duration, are needed if we want to build a lasting relationship.

But, even with considerable patience with beginners, there comes a time when patience runs out if there is no progress.

I've met submissives who shield themselves in that they need more time to take another step. I can understand this in the early stages, the first contacts. However, if we stagnate in four or five points and limit interactions to areas in which the submissive is comfortable and secure, the relationship will not advance and end up being pure monotony.

Not to mention their lack of trust in Domme. When a submissive is surrendered, let her guide him, although initially is not easy to integrate into his daily life that he already belongs to another person and is due to her.

When everything is the same after long daily conversations in which he is allowed to speak freely, it is time to take another step, to get involved in the will of the Domme. She already knows how far she can take him and he should already be clear if he can trust her or not.

It's good to be cautious, but endless prolegomena are not so good :)

Addiction to heels

All! Well, not all, I don't like those ugly thickest. But stilettos drive me crazy. "Addiction" is an exaggeration, of course, perhaps the most fitting word be "fetishism".

These days are arriving new acquisitions. Highlight the scandalously beautiful booties that a submissive from Barcelona bought for me, I promised a picture with them (promise fulfilled, although you'll see me wearing them more times, it's a hasty photo and does not do them justice), and shoes with sharp rivets perfect for a ballbusting or to sit and watch a submissive tongue sliding through the crannies.

Do you see how easy is to put a smile on my face? As a hint, I tell you there're more heels on my Amazon wish lists. I know, I know, I'm a whimsical, but high heels are so beautiful... :D

High heels make me feel more seductive and sensual. The elegance of the woman who knows how to wear them is what makes her different.

And what can I say about these orgasmic massages after a walk with them on? Nothing better than the rest of the warrior with the attention she deserves.

Not that I'm missing volunteers, precisely, but I love having many options ;)

Agree a blackmail

Don't know if I did not express clearly or that some are very short of mind. Well, actually I do know :)

To all those who don't know how to interpret what they read, I clarify them that no, I don't submit to blackmail all my slaves. If you would read carefully, you would see I say that is a couple of months ago I have no pooches in those terms.

It's a practice reserved for the few and, like any other, I don't want to do it with everyone. In fact, none of the slaves I already have inspires me a blackmail, just as I don't feminized all my properties and I don't desire more 24/7 servants than the bitch that occupies that place.

Each slave brings me different things from the others, so I like to enjoy a stable and do what I feel like with each. But that doesn't mean I am a collector at all, I prefer quality to quantity. Always.

To reach a blackmail you must be prepared for it, have the fetish of being completely controlled and knowing that any misstep will mean a risk you will have to evaluate whether to take.

I demand the signing of a contract detailing all my privileges over the slave, the type of penalties that could be applied in the event of default and, of course, an end date of contract in which the slave can renew or terminate the agreement.

As you see, there is complete previous consensus where everything is agreed. Logically, if your preferences don't please me, there will be no agreement. And vice versa, 'cause his surrender will never be forced, he voluntarily choose to undergo.

I have no problem to speak openly about all of these things though, of course, I keep the most personal and private aspects ;)

Thrill

It seems that yesterday was a blast, lol. My haters are right about something, it is true that I am a shameless: I do what I want and have the nerve to enjoy it and tell it openly.

I understand that for some a ignore line is something beyond their comprehension, like blackmail, or many other things that others of us love. But that's life, a range of options to choose our favorite.

I have been asked in amazement if someone really calls me to a phone line in which I don't even answer. As incredible as it may seem to some of you, the answer is yes. Of course they call me. And some repeat because they had not enough with the minutes they arranged in advance.

The caller has very different feelings, a mixture of attraction/fear very encouraging, with the incentive of the possibility to hear my voice or sounds around me, although I ignore him. Or just because I ignore him.

A few are seduced by morbid curiosity of what they could capture during the call, others the pure pleasure of being ignored.

Part of an email which I received last night:

"It was an honor to be your ignored pig a few minutes. I was lucky to hear you talking to someone I guess one of your slaves. You have a lovely and authoritative voice but sweet too and a very contagious laugh. Thanks for putting the media for those who are far and we can not serve you as you deserve"

What can I add? Although I also ignore him by mail, the pleasure is also mine ;)

A number to ignore you

No, it is not a sentence of "The Lord of the Rings". I've decided to dedicate one of my phones to ignore line so, from now, my number in VerifiedCall will only be for that function.

What is an ignore line? A number to call me because you are a compulsive gossip, in which you can hear me in real time and spy on my conversations (if any) or whatever I am doing at that moment.

You will no longer speak with me there, the other number is for this, because I answer your questions or queries in MyPhoneSite. In the ignore line you'll be completely ignored :D

What will I be doing if you call me? Talking to a slave, taking a shower, smoking a cigarette, walking down the middle, watching a movie... or perhaps something more private as having a sesión?

There are many who have this fetish, to suffer because I ignore them as I continue with my life, so now, to all of you who like this deal, you can get hanging in the other side of the phone while I let you listen.

And fear not, I assure the most cowards that VerifiedCall guarantees absolute anonymity. I will not see your phone number.

I love you to keep an eye on me (or an ear) while I ignore your existence. It is a practice that, although not well known, it can be very exciting. Am I becoming an exhibitionist? No, I just love to be worshiped ;)

I feel so... Cruel

These days I've seen a lot of creativity on the social networks. Precious photos of Christmas performances with needles to skin, pretty sissies posing wrapped in Christmas lights and even a genital torture as a tree with baubles, tinsel and lights (only was missing an urethral dipstick that held the star of the cup).

Have been a very hectic and fast days. And so my year has started with a lot of energy, with a few kinks and looking forward to many more.

2014 just started and, although many do not understand the pleasure of this practice, I want a new consensual blackmail, for example, almost two months since I have no a little worm up against the ropes oozing adrenaline :D

I rejected some proposals in that sense these past months, but now is the perfect time to make you sweat and push pins to some lucky man having the courage to submit to me in that way.

And it's not a soft way precisely because he puts his life in my hands, that is, absolute control. And I love that. The sensations are potentiated in a sublime way. But for this he must have lots of courage, not everybody is good to, and I don't accept the first one that appears.

You know, all who have told me about it lately, send your proposals again and I'll see if anyone deserves the privilege of enjoying my cruelty ;)

Year End and New Year

It's New Year, but as just a couple of days ago I dedicated a post to summarize 2013, today I omit it.

I like to celebrate tonight at home, the atmosphere usually found in the streets in a night like this one is not my favorite. Too decontrol, many drunk people and artificial euphoria I dislike.

As a teenager I liked the novelty of being able to go out at night and do a little fool around, but those days are over.

Today I prefer the privacy of my home, watching my chained bitch serving dinner and a spreader bar between her ankles, balancing on her heels and trying to keep the smile as I chat with friends and slaves and pinch her ass to increase her problems :D

Nor am to take the grapes, I don't like grapes, but I join the party taking twelve sips of champagne while I make the others laugh and see how they lose the rhythm of the bells.

Honestly, I find it much more attractive my routine than to go out on a night like this. Although that is my choice. Both, those who celebrate it with family or friends and those who prefer to celebrate outside, I wish you a great evening and, of course, a Happy New Year!

A different offer

I am working on finding a submissive willing to submit and surrender to a D/s couple. The applicant must live in Madrid or, failing that, scroll when required.

This couple of which I speak are very serious and have very clear what they want, but it seems not easy to find the true submissive that suits their desires.

This blog is not about contacts, much less, however I will be an active part in the matter of which I speak, and that somehow I will be a tutor of that submissive helping with his training.

He has years of real experience (with female submissives) and is straight and she is novice in the art of Domination. I appreciate both very much, hence my support for them. They are great people, I assure you that the chosen will be in good hands.

It so happens that they live out of Madrid, so real contact with the servant would be once a month, but with control and daily contact through other means.

They do not want a 24/7 slave (read well), and it would not be mine, but of them, because I will collaborate only in the beginning.

My friends want to build a long lasting relationship with their future submissive. Whoever is interested in the proposal can contact me at my email and I will give more details of this.

It is a fantastic opportunity for all who desire a real D/s relationship, though not the usual Mistress/slave, but Master/Mistress/slave. However, now do not come to make me feel dizzy asking me to help you all with your searches, that this is something very punctual that I want to do for two friends ;)

Duality

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I know my nick suggests I'm a heartless bitch (and a bad fox when you look where I say I am also Financial Mistress), and when you read me, unsettles the image that you had made about me.

I'm not going to disabuse, I admit to being also a sadist with few scruples, but everything has its time, right?

I love the humiliation, but I do not go through life humiliating worldwide. I enjoy spanking, but I don't go out with a whip in each hand.

We all have a duality in our personalities. The secret to feeling good about oneself is to know to balance these two characters without giving up any (or we would be fooling ourselves).

I've been through so much because I'm not to stand looking how others live. And all those things, good and bad, have been contributing to make me as I am, teaching me to express myself and distinguish when I can exert my cruelty and with whom I desire to do it.

People say many things about me: I'm a provocative, I'm a charming woman, I'm a bitch, I have no idea of ​​Domination, I'm an exceptional Mistress, I am very protective of my own, my selfishness knows no bounds, that...

Yes, I awake very opposite feelings. It would be so boring that everybody devote me cloying words all the time. I am as I am and nobody is forced to accept me.

How beautiful is life, with all its variety of creatures! :D

Change of season

The summer leaves us and while on one hand I'm not too excited for the winter yet, on the other hand I think of boots, hosiery, leather and all these fetish supplements I can wear every day.

Fashion stores exhibit autumn-winter novelties and, although it's a little lazy dive between warm clothes, I have my eye on a nice leather tube skirt. So, as they say, every cloud has a silver lining.

With the heat we love the short skirts, open sandals and a pedicure to look immaculate, but with the cold arriving spectacular boots, stiletto endless heels, ecstatic massage of feet from a good slave after a day of shopping or walking by the city. Everything has its advantages ;)

Those of us that are very feminine and flirty, enjoy with costume changes, makeup and accessories, and what man does not like to look us pretty? In the game of seduction, a Lady can take advantage of many details and I am not of those who lost the great little pleasures, so some shoppingslave will be privileged to accompany me to test some things.

As always, proposals to my email, tiny tots, I never close my doors to meet a new faithfully puppy: D

Oh, yes! CruelDama is a Finantial Mistress, still not clear for you? lol.

A life in eleven months

The blog is eleven months old and so much has happened...

I've been showing every day as I am, I have written my opinions, my experiences, my life, I shared my pictures, I have done a few fun contests... And also I have omitted many things, of course, as there are issues that remain in my privacy.

I have been envied, slandered, exalted, pyroped. Some have copied my texts, my sentences and even my photos have been adjudicated as their own. I've even been threatened with death!

I have been leaving bits of me and since I started this adventure Blogging I've met wonderful people, both real and online. Dommes, submissive, slave, Amos, switches, sadists, masochists, spankers, spankees, bondage artists, sissies, transgendered, Dominas... My conclusion is highly enjoyable and positive.

Not that before publishing the blog did not know anyone, I've been many years in FemDom, but letting me know here has meant opening the door to many great people and, in turn, be welcomed by people I admire.

And this is CruelDama, the woman you read here, sadistic and Dominant, but with the wisdom and sense of reality that comes with age. Because yes, it is true, I am a mature Lady, but my genes are favorable to me :D

In this time I have not tried to lecture anyone, but to share my point of view and my opinions. You say you learn a lot from me, but I encourage you to seek other perspectives, that are and are very respectable.

Until this moment is a intense "diary" of eleven months. Will we get to a year? Time, my will and your visits will tell ;)

FemDom, BDSM and sex

Today I want to make think a little bit to those who often say that FemDom and BDSM are not sex and when I rebates for they add that not only sex (that "only" so useful) ;)

To start, FemDom and BDSM are a set of practices for some, a lifestyle for others, who were classified as unconventional sex, ie alternative sex. (Is noted that I write the word sex often?).

The erotic, sensual and sexual component is implied at all times, I play with the morbid fascination and desire of the one to which I submit, there is explicit sex or not. That there is no genitality at times does not mean that there is no sex, because it is present even in practices like forced chastity, as contradictory as it sounds.

The genitality is part of sexuality, but sex covers many more aspects than pure genitality and in our world, where we have so many fetishes and forms of externalizing pulsions and even internalize abstractions that stimulate our minds far beyond the physical genitality . Anyway, sex (direct or not) is present.

It is a subject in which everyone has an opinion, of course, but here I leave my point of view. I consider anything that awakens our desire is part of our sexuality.