Alternative sexuality

Most submissives who contact us seeks instant satisfaction. In fact, although I don't know the exact numbers, the percentage of people who arrive to FemDom and BDSM looking for sex sites on the internet is incredibly high.

There is nothing wrong with entering porn sites (unless you're under control and have no such permits :D). The sex industry keeps moving masses every minute.

But, although FemDom is for many of us an alternative lifestyle in which sex has a lot to do, either forcing, manipulating, denying it, strengthening it, playing with the desire or as each one wants to live it, it's not just sex.

Nor it's a purely aesthetic matter. I am very fetishist, but do not sleep corseted and in high heels ;)

Whether I'm practicing a genital torture, an especially hard spanking or imposing a chastity device, for example, I enjoy it much more if the recipient of my whims does so in the conviction of being surrendered to me and not just 'cause he's sexually aroused because I use him from time to time.

An ejaculation, an orgasm, are great, but if there's nothing else, everything ends when climax is reached.

Love or desire

Even decorated with words like love, for example, sexual desire is a primal instinct. I'm not saying they can not go together, but are often confused with each other.

Libido (desires and pulsions) is influenced by factors as diverse as (and I quote just a few) physical and hormonal state, the climate, the way we perceive the object of desire, dreams, conscious and unconscious fantasies...

Infatuation is fleeting, its duration depends on the value you assign to your loved one.

There are also partial sexual instincts: oral, anal, exhibitionism, voyeurism, sadism...

Where do I want to go? Those "I love you" some people say so blithely neither cause the same effect on everyone nor have the same meaning for everyone. I have heard them so many times that my attention is probably more focused on the sound of falling rain if both sounds coincide simultaneously, ie, do not cause me a significant reaction. And certainly not when who says it is someone who has not my confidence.

Many men throw an "I love you" because, perhaps because of their socio-cultural background or because they have seen it in a silly movie, they believe it is what any woman wants to hear, forgetting that not all women are the same.

I maintain affective relationships with several of my slaves but, you know, the dog loves you, the Cat allows you to love Her ;)

Days to remember

Some pictures of how the weekend is being ;)

Seriousness and eroticism

Who does not like to eroticize certain moments that will become special? Elicit responses in everyday situations as a dared comment publicly to produce an involuntary erection in the slave that accompanies me, leave him blank with a whatsapp that only he will understand, dry his throat with a gesture of mine for him to intuit he's going to be punished although not know how...

There are many hotness ways and I am very playful ;)

I like protocol and the seriousness of the things I do, however I don't let that solemnity stop me from enjoying my games, just the opposite.

I am serious and sharp when I consider appropriate, but I like to enjoy my life. You can be serious and biting even dining in a restaurant and resting my foot on my slave's genitals (with or without CB) under the table. And if between dishes I whisper a little preview of what I will do to him privately after dinner, I'll feed not only of what we are eating, but also his "anxiety" at what's imminent.

Yes, I also like to use a whip with the submissives attending an event, but for my relationships I want that "something else". That one of them goes through a chastity period doesn't mean I have to stop having fun, right? :D

Lastest BDSM events

It's Saturday again and tonight's party in the dungeon, with the performance Gloryhole. Marqués de Zas and NeFeR will delight us with a new and unique representation designed to The Oasis Of Sado. We start at 23:00, do not be late or we'll begin without you :D

After this event, there will be only other one next week, 24/7, BDSM International Day on Thursday in Taboo.

I will need complacent submissives (that always, avoid missing), I've got tasks for them because, in addition to performance there is so much to do ... ;)

We'll count with the assistance of Nasero, BDSM toys craftsman and friend of the group, who will bring some of his creations, like the new codline I commissioned for friends (I'll must premiere it, lol) and other things he does on request.

In these months of events we have gathered a diverse group of related to BDSM and we are pleased to see that someone new always comes to know us and enjoy the evenings. And I still say more, who test, repeats.

See you tonight? :)

My kitty

Long time no write about my slaves, so today I will make blush one in particular.

He's my feline. I've distorted his face for privacy and its a shame because he is a very handsome kitty, with fully catlike green eyes and a personality very much in keeping with his nickname though, however much he goes away to the roofs of several cities, always comes back to me.

We know each other for some years now and, despite not wearing my collar from the beginning, he was always mine and we both know it.

He lives far from Madrid and comes from time to time, but the connection between us is such that each new encounter, although months have passed, is as if he had been at my feet the day before.

I love knowing he's there, although there are times when the only contact is by WhatsApp messages, but when kitty comes, with that mixture of playful kitten face and shyness and his conviction of surrender, willing to do whatever I want, makes me smile.

He is a proud cat and I'm sure that this entry will make him purr all day. But do not trust you, kitty, time passes quickly and soon you'll be back at my feet, where should be corrected where everything has to be corrected ;)

Sentimentalism? Absolutely not, simple appreciation for my properties.

Visitors arrive!

It's been a week, between one thing and another, I don't stop too much. Not a complaint, mind you, I'm very lucky to do what I want and I am well aware that not everyone can say the same.

But if the week is being activated, the weekend will be much more. Tomorrow is the Oasis Of Sado BDSM party, I guess you all know, but not only that, also come to Madrid two good friends that look forward to meeting, two perversions fellows that, every time they visit me, we finish exhausted, without sleep for a couple of days and happy of life.

We meet more or less every three months, and although we are together online every day, joking and telling our stuff, there's nothing like being together in person, play together, die of laughter and sharing those moments of confidences and talks that can be lengthen for hours.

I tell you because there will be no large posts during the weekend, at most a couple of pictures of the moment, as I will be extremely busy :D

Personal Ethics

I could define it as the set of decisions, as individuals or persons, we take to choose good or bad choices according to the values ​​and the formation of each. But personal ethics goes beyond decisions, since our behavior, our way of doing things is implied. There is a great infuence from the sociocultural environment to which we belong, however we develop our values ​​as our personality is defined.

And exactly the same goes in FemDom. A Dominatrix without personal ethics can be a hazard to those who are in her hands.

This past weekend my Sister asked me to remove a little bit the rust of her submissives and let them in my hands (in fact I am responsible for them while she is absent, responsibility I gladly accepted at the time and I keep delighted).

My dear Sister knows she can trust me fully, so has left them in my care. And yes, I used them, they were helping during the last event and, at times, had intermittent sessions of spanking with paddle, codline and whip (intermittent because there were more people and divided my time between them and the party).

I had and have carte blanche, in fact I consider them a little bit mine (all in the family), but my personal ethics prevent me to overdo things that are reserved to their true Owner, My Sister.

It is the case of alma, the slave of a good friend, all these cases of submissive that their Dommes ask me to play with at one time or another (a collared submissive or slave is something that deserves my utmost respect, both the collar and the Owner, since I expect that same respect when I who yield one of my properties).

We are not all the same and there are always discordant notes that not only do not respect anything, but demonstrate an impressive chutzpah. But, as Owners of our submissives and slaves, we are responsible for to know whom we yield them (if we do).

Play and feel

I always say that Dominants we are all different, do not insist on treating us all by the same standard and bother yourselves to know each one, because differences are remarkable.

And exactly the same applies to submissives. No two are alike, though there are similar characteristics and needs. There is a belief (especially among Dominas that start) that we can treat them all the same, that they'll surrender and will accept everything we feel like.

They'll only accept once the relationship has been established, we have come a way in which we have taken our time to enter into his head, in training him, in worrying about to know his mind and study his reactions, his fantasies, his desires...

Reading and watching out there it would seem that exchanging a couple of emails and private conversations, calling him dog, putting him a collar and you're all done. And not to disparage anyone, but ... do they really believe that something like that will work beyond a few ejaculations of the collared one?

For me it is something much more serious. If I want to make a relationship work, I have to put my effort into it, my time, my energy. It should be known how far I can take him, when and how can I force a limit, when I push to become involved and work harder, how to apply a physical or psychological punishment ...

The only magic wands that work are of Hitachi ;)

FemDom and BDSM day to day

I like people talk about FemDom and BDSM in general openly. Books, films, performances and theater emerge, which are very well received by the general public (both vanilla as belonging to the community).

And I'm not talking about Grey, that also has its audience, but many other examples are becoming more natural at all levels, though still persists some obscurantism in certain circles. Today people have a more open mind and I no longer know whether it is because for any kind of fashion or our world awakens curiosity increasingly, we find almost everywhere samples.

I was amused by Clara Lago (Eight Basque surnames,Venus in Furs) for having mentioned me in a popular television program in Spain, although she didn't remember my nickname. I really love that FemDom increasingly reaches diffusion and can have short samples turning on the television, taking a walk (someday I'll tell you a little anecdote) or in bookstores.

I myself contribute my way to the dissemination of FemDom and BDSM, but I don't feel the need for BDSM is "normalized", because secrecy has its morbid, but it's nice that gradually is losing these dyes of unmentionable taboo or destructive cult that still some continue to award.

FemDom and BDSM is an alternative lifestyle in which intensity of sensations and feelings that those of us who integrate it, we live and feel things in a different way.

Let's go to the dungeon!

It has been a very dynamic and with many news week. But it's the weekend and tonight's party in the dungeon, where we can meet to talk about our stuff, play what we feel like and meet those who come for the first time to visit the Oasis Of Sado.

I really want to rerun my codline, it suffered a small accident recently, but is now like new and ready for any action it takes. Yesterday came from the workshop of SR-Leather and I want to express my appreciation to the owners, who were kind enough to fix it and leave it even better than before. And, if it was one of my favorite toys before, I can imagine more than a few trembling when they see it in my hands again :D

You guessed it, I love the spanking, painting marks and colors on the canvas of a skin, the sound of the crack of a whip, a crop, a codline, a paddle, a shovel, a flogger, a cane, my hand... to feel, to hear, to taste...

But in the dungeon can do the practices that attendees wish, facilities are perfect for making suspensions, watersports, spanking on the cross, cleat, bed immobilization, foot and footwear fetishists will be in their element with FemDoms there we will. I could go on, the list of practices that lends the dungeon are endless, but obviously, if you wish to do others, there you will find the perfect environment for you to carry them out. Public humiliation, Facesitting, CBT, pet-play, mummification, feminization... or just watch the playing? Anything can happen with The Oasis Of Sado ;)

Thinking aloud

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Remarks

I am Dominant, positive and assertive, not impassive or insensitive. Some people think I'm an unshaken rock and what I am is a woman with strong character and clear thinking. That does not mean that nothing affects me, but I have a great self-control and let you see what I want it to be seen.

I have my own parameters to catalog the important thing, the secondary and even the thoroughly dispensable, however, as a human being, I have joys and disappointments.

Yes, I am very able to make clear what I do not like, to remove from my side what bothers me and circumvent those bumps we all have with a smile on my face, but all that does not absolve me of a hard moment from time to time.

Refrain from stupidities, a Domme is not beyond good and evil, is a woman unlike any other. The bells and whistles are often wrong.

And no, I have no time (nor desire) endless private conversations in private social networks or emails do not lead anywhere. I don't want online slaves, unless they are moneyslaves or their relationship with me is a blackmail. I don't need any 24/7 slave, that position is not vacant nor will be. If you want to meet me in person, forget a bland coffee, you have the perfect opportunity to chat with me in person in the celebrations of the Oasis Of Sado every weekend.

I'll end the post with a famous phrase: If I am not going to be your priority, you are not an option.

Cruel, Lady and diaphanous

Life takes many turns. What now seems eternal and completely safe, tomorrow is smoke in the air.

I am inevitable every day more skeptical with the stories people tell me. Even with the closest.

I can't say I'm disappointed, there are things that are seen coming and I am too old to fall into absurd and useless tantrums. Also, I would spoil my makeup and that's something I'm not willing :D

My nick begins with Cruel and ends by Lady, although sometimes I invest the order of the two components and others I use only one of them, depending on the addressee.

I am a very clear woman, at all, but there are still some 'slaves' who try to do things their way to get everything they want sacrificing absolutely nothing.

If you aspire to a FemDom relationship, a real one, a truth one, the concepts are: you'll give priority over all things to your Owner, the Mistress you serve, that she'll know to manage your life :)

For more title of Goddess people adress me, my feet are on the ground (sometimes on someone), and I am sane and smart enough to know (and make know) how I want things to be. I take into account many factors, but I can't conceive any of my relationships being secondary in the life of any of my pooches.

You can not be a little pregnant, you are pregnant or you're not ;)

A great weekend

This weekend I met great people: a follower of my blog who came from San Sebastián only to attend the event on Saturday (I loved meeting you, hope to see you soon), the sympathetic MistressLadyM, who came from Lisbon with her submissive, fetishistic and beautiful Gala_ and TaniaBDSM (pictured yesterday's post) and everyone who made this night a special evening.

But I repeat what I said yesterday. I have been asked questions and I'm not characterized by go over there telling anybody's life or who did what with whom.

Yesterday I had a flood of calls and messages and I thank everyone for the interest in private meetings of The Oasis Of Sado. Soon there will be news and will be a pleasure to share with you all. While we also admit suggestions for everyone to have fun and enjoy your abilities in the dungeon.

A new week starts and we all have many things to do, but don't forget the next event, it will be Friday 16. Every time we are more and the capacity is limited, don't forget to confirm your attendance in the mail that you will find in the BDSM Events section.

To be or not to be

We can be visceral and, at the same time, have enough self-control to know what we do at every moment and how we channel our emotions.

Being Dominant does not mean losing your composure, do not have to do with being a screamer, not a rude or embittered woman.

Sometimes all it takes is a look to get the result we want, we can exercise power with a whisper in which are embedded a few words that trigger the urge to please us, we manage to capture the attention with a gesture, teach our submissives and slaves (each with our methods) they endeavor to provide a satisfactory service.

It is also true that there are some cases where I really enjoy a more exclusive and intense humiliation. But they are punctual cases and whenever I decide that that's exactly what I want to do with this or that submissive and, of course, that the submissive accept my whim to give him such treatment (or he is one of my slaves, because in that case I don't have to be groping).

But we can humiliate a submissive and lead him to a brutal excitement still smiling and without raising our voice. And I'm not talking about to call him little slut to get a sad erection, but to rummage his entrails and take him by an imaginary leash wherever we want.

The best is not to be as we are expected to be, but as we really are :)

Exciting shopping

How nice stroll through Madrid with temperature we have right now. Yesterday I went shopping with my slave magic and I was really well. Jeans and a t-shirt is enough to get lost in the crowd and let my feet exhausted by the heels. Of course then my pooch gives them the pampering they deserve ;)

To go shopping with magic means to come home at dawn. There are days when I don't finally show preference for any of the items I seek and I just select any other, playing to drive my pooch crazy and laughing uproariously with any nonsense.

Enter the changing rooms with various pieces of clothing and observe the plight of my slave to try them on, put one foot at steering wheel in a red traffic light to he licks my boot with the corresponding amazement of neighboring drivers... There is a lot of fun and so morbidity in small details.

No doubt, I love to go shopping in Madrid :)

Money and Domination

I love reactions when you read me. There are them of all kinds: some you are surprised that I am so clear talking about anything, other you alter with my sincerity taking my posts as a type of attack to who know against what or whom, others you like what you read and even some discovers some other things.

You can agree with me or not, share or refuse my lifestyle, but this is my blog, not the blog of "a woman writing what you want to read to masturbate at ease."

And I know a few do it anyway, maybe because my words are exactly what you expect to hear/read, or because you go hot and a couple of suggestive photos end in that inevitable ejaculation, my vicious dogs.

What may surprise when you discover this space is that I am not the typical Financial Domme demanding money. Money, money, money... money fascinates me, excites me, awakens my instincts, I am passionate about the power it gives me when I demand it and get in exchange for what I want (maybe nothing). But that money you offer me is accompanied by many other things, although sometimes I take it from some pooch and want nothing else from him.

But my necklace is not for sale, my necklace means a lot of effort from you and fails the first to appear. And that's what matters to me. I reject your money if it comes on the heels of demands. That's no Domination for me, it is when I do my will. I don't conceive Domination if I have to adapt myself to exchange for money. For me it is not a transaction: no sell anything, no beggar anything.

I don't need your money, I just want it. Just as I want your mind, your will and your body :D

Sex: grant/denial

It's funny (how diplomatic I am sometimes) hear some submissives (more than I'd like) to talk about the wonders they see in videos and how much they would like a Domme would make them that.

There are very good clips of real Dommes, but don't talk about those, no, they speak of those in which the beautiful actresses (Santa does not exist, face it) perform much sex and much of what can attract a male.

Imagination is free and we all have fantasies, but is heavy that you arrive to a Domme and tell her all you want her to do unto you when a submissive is to serve her (with or without sex) and when it does not depend on your desires, but hers.

There are submissives who doesn't inspire me more sex than deny it, enclosing his penis in a chastity device and holding the keys, others over whom I exercise my sadism and others I use sexually when and how I please . Even to the latter I can drive them crazy with constant tease and denial for my amusement. But for me (and many others) is not arriving, have a drink and destroy the room or dungeon, but much more than satiate your desire and your interests.

Sex is the basis of our instincts and I consider myself a sensual and sexual woman, but sex is not what I look for in a submissive. If I am not attracted to your inner (or your penis prevents you to show what you have inside), what makes you think that staging your fantasies is a priority for me?

Venus in Furs

I finally went to see the movie "Venus in Furs" by Polanski. It's based on the book of Sacher-Masoch, but with an updated vision and, although at first it gave me the impression that it was going to be vulgar, I liked the development and the final.

Mental Domination which actress submits the actor from the first moment (in an unexpected way) is brilliant and I applaud the performance of Emmanuelle Seigner, a fascinating and different Wanda.

Adapted to nowadays, the action takes place between two characters (Wanda and severin) today, and there are a few surprises. I'm not going to say anything else, you have to watch it, as I'm sure many will like.

It was a special night. I arrived with one of my slaves to the nocturnal function and we got a pleasant surprise because we had the whole room for us (we were the only audience there), so I could play with my pooch while enjoying projection ;)

When the movie ended, we commented in the car and, of course, we had to go brand new crop my puppy just gifted me. Leave the rest to your imagination :D