Today I want to make think a little bit to those who often say that FemDom and BDSM are not sex and when I rebates for they add that not only sex (that "only" so useful) ;)
To start, FemDom and BDSM are a set of practices for some, a lifestyle for others, who were classified as unconventional sex, ie alternative sex. (Is noted that I write the word sex often?).
The erotic, sensual and sexual component is implied at all times, I play with the morbid fascination and desire of the one to which I submit, there is explicit sex or not. That there is no genitality at times does not mean that there is no sex, because it is present even in practices like forced chastity, as contradictory as it sounds.
The genitality is part of sexuality, but sex covers many more aspects than pure genitality and in our world, where we have so many fetishes and forms of externalizing pulsions and even internalize abstractions that stimulate our minds far beyond the physical genitality . Anyway, sex (direct or not) is present.
It is a subject in which everyone has an opinion, of course, but here I leave my point of view. I consider anything that awakens our desire is part of our sexuality.
Desire is a central component of BDSM. Femdom is one kind of BDSM. "Sex" is one of many activities that could result from desire.
ReplyDeleteI have heard some pro-dommes and their clients say they do NOT engage in sex during sessions. I can't separate the two (sex and bdsm).