Some realities

D/s relationships are sublime, I agree with that, but what they are not is easy. Each Domme develops her relations based on her preferences, her rules, her desires... but it's not a fairy tale.

For a submissive, for example, the goal is to surrender to his Domme (and be accepted for her), but take into account that what might not be so easy is to adapt himself to his new condition of being a property. To be owned by someone is not just wear a nice collar, but that collar means a genuine commitment to the Owner.

And from the other side of the leash, other things happen. Sometimes we get involved in training, we strive to mold the submissive and finally incompatibilities arise, or the sub may even decide to disappear without even giving explanations of his behavior (that has happened to all of us), doesn't matter how many communication routes we open.

"I will be what you want" sounds great on paper, but if my wishes prevent him to watch the match with his buddies, if he has to assume that his sex is no longer "his sex" but mine (with the certainty that it will be me who grant or deny), if he finds that will have to perform tasks that he doesn't like, if he has to wait to be required, if he must let me know his moves and many more etceteras, perhaps he no longer feel so attracted to "be what I want him to be."

His obligation is make me happy, to serve me, but if, after commissioning the relationship, the submissive is not happy doing it, the expiration date of that relationship is very close.